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Can Yoga Benefit Your Relationship?

Yoga is fantastic for self care, both physically and mentally. Yet, practicing yoga can also benefit your relationship with your partner as well! I hear it all the time “Relationships are hard work” they can be yet when you take care of yourself it makes everything else easier.

Something that helps you to regain your strength and ground you back to your true self is Yoga!

Seeking authentic intimacy with your partner, you open yourself up to give pieces of you to them. While this can strengthen your relationship, it can also be very ungrounding to your own energy. By practicing yoga, youll be able to focus on your self-care, which will in turn help create a healthy relationship for you and your partner.

Self-care is very important to a healthy relationship because it allows you to still feel connected to your true self. I notice that many people loose themselves when they enter a relationship. Here are some reasons why you should continue practicing yoga to benefit your relationship!

Yoga Grounds You

Things can get heated when you are in a relationships. In order to stay calm, yoga can ground you. This way you do not fly off the handle when things start to get rough and you say and do things you might not mean.

Beach yoga sunYoga Connects You to Your True Self

Being in a relationship can be challenging since you have to deal with another person, their needs, wants and especially their moods. Buy yoga keeps you connected to yourself so that you are less likely to be judgey, reactive or even defensive in your relationship.

Yoga Gets You Out of Your Comfort Zone

If you are hesitant about anything in your relationship, yoga will help you get out of your comfort zone so that you can experience true intimacy with your partner. It helps nudge you to get uncomfortable and outside of your head so that you can truly give yourself entirely to your relationship.

Yoga Opens Up Your Compassion

By practicing yoga, you will be more open to compassion. When Your relationship is in need of compassion you will be able to open your heart. You will b e less likely to get mad over the little things and will have more compassion for your parther, thus strengthening your relationship in general.

Yoga Makes You Feel Stronger

Love has it’s ups and downs. Practicing yoga regularly will help you feel stronger than ever! You will be able to weather the inevitable. Make sure to always utilize supplements to help enhance our internal health.

Yoga Makes You More Grateful!

Yoga has a way of making you more grateful for everything in your life. You will feel in tune with yourself and your universe. You will see your partner in grateful light and be happy to have them. Gratitude will allow your relationship to grow and evolve into something amazing!

Yoga Gets Your Endorphins Flowing

Yoga and exercise in general will get your endorphins flowing so that you feel better. This allows you to be able to contribute more to your relationship so that you are in a better mood all the time. You will be genuinely happy and yoga can keep that positive feeling going strong.

Yoga Makes You Feel Great

When practicing yoga you feel good and when you feel good, your partner and relationship flourish. You will be practicing self-care while also nurturing your relationship at the same time.

How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours – Wayne Dyer

Relationships are everywhere. Work, home, pets, friends, family… Everywhere you look, turn, and run there are relationships there to support you or there are relationships there to dethrone you.

Something that has been difficult for me to understand and grasp fully, is that you can never control the other person. You may not understand or know how the other person is feeling. You can’t always understand why the person does what they do. You can’t dictate how they react. Most importantly You Cannot Change The Past.

Find joy in everything you choose to do. Every job, relationship, home.. it’s your responsibility to love it, or change it

-Chuck Palahniuk

I was in an extremely toxic relationship for roughly five years. It was on and off, if you can relate. It was not physically abusive, though mentally and verbally it fit the bill.

It broke me.

I kept going back and kept thinking there was something wrong with me. I felt that this person, just like I was doing for them, had my best interest at heart.

I would only feel secure when he showed me affection. When it was absent I would spiral into deep dark depression thinking “What am I doing wrong to not receive his love?” Yet, as I look back his love was only empty promises, empty lines, empty “I love you’s”, “I will never leave you”, “You are everything to me”

Then, after the second time I caught him speaking to one of his exes, I realized how I was walking on eggshells. How I was living a fraction of my life. Most of it in fear. The other half in false hope. Every time we would break up, or I felt the strength to walk away, I would come back because I wanted to feel that love, appreciation, affection. Only to feel like I had made the worst decision and wondering if he was messaging anyone else.

Some of us think holding on makes us strong, but sometimes it is letting go – Hermann Hesse

I remember the times we would separate or argue. I wasn’t able to eat, sleep, I felt scared, and I felt alone. I know I had so many people in my “corner” telling me how this was better for me and he had done me a favor. All I could think of was how desperate I felt to get him back or figure out why I wasn’t good enough for him.

 I was scared to be alone. I was scared of only having myself. I didn’t have many close friends any more due to isolating myself throughout the relationship. Also, loosing many disapproving friends. Though, through these times I would start to work on myself. Lean on books by Louise Hay, Gabby Bernstein and Wayne Dyer. Started exercising, eating well and feeling much happier. Which is usually when the timing came for him to come right back into my world.

Finally the end…

It was December 2015, he was distant, abrasive, and short with me. He stayed out with “friends” and slept on the couch. The inevitable happened. He broke it off with me. I remember that Thursday night. Crying and begging him to work on things and that I was sorry for whatever I may have done. That Friday morning driving his kids to school saying goodbye for good, my things in tow.

Not realizing that this definitely a God send.
I  slowly started to improve yet again.  Even though I was feeling better about myself, I still had a long way to go. Which then I noticed I was trying to use other relationships as a safety net. My heart has been broken many times. My mind is still broken. Which tends to spiral me into the black abyss.  All of these distractions that add to the depression that overlays my external persona.
I still battle with anxiety and depression and it can create tension in all relationships that I have. Fear of not being good enough. Fear of responding incorrectly. Fear of hurting someone. Fear of acting like I am better than someone else.

There’s an important difference between giving up and letting go – Jessica Hatchigan

These thoughts are on a negative reel that plays in my head daily. It affects me the most when I am romantically with someone. I lash out when I feel down on myself. I break out in tears when I feel overwhelmed. I am accusatory. I have nights I want to curl under the covers and ignore everyone and maybe sleep for two days straight. Then be upset that I wasted valuable time. I hate myself because I can see my anxiety causing issues yet I can’t control it as easily as I would like.

So this is where I am – trying to make sense of things that don’t make sense. Working with a therapist and trying to use other outlets, such as blogging, to help release these negative thoughts and hopefully reaching someone else. Maybe shedding some light to others that are close to me. Which when reading this they will go “That is why you are doing that” It is me trying to be strong and transparent, loving and compassionate, supportive and brave for all those other struggling with similar situations.

Four Health Benefits of Marriage

By Jenna Clark

A good marriage would be between a blind wife and a deaf husband.

At times married life can be less than exciting and making you feel very testy towards your significant other. Yet, even when your partner is driving you up the wall, it turns out they might actually be improving your health.

It is true! Turns out that those that are married may have the advantage of health benefits over someone who is single. Now, that does not mean that tying the knot automatically creates a happier healthier you. Clearly divorce rates have sky rocketed. Though some studies show that relationships are at the root of finding joy.

 

“Every man has his secret sorrows which the world knows not; and often times we call a man cold when he is only sad.”
― Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

Health Benefits Of A Happy Marriage

Numero UnoLower Risk of Cardiovascular Disease. Considering heart disease is one of the main causes of death this is a pretty important factor.

Your stress levels will be lower. It may not seem like it at the time of an argument, but being married actually creates a hormonal change that directly affects stress levels.

Beat it Cancer! This is a bit dramatic yet equally as important, being married boosted survival rates of cancer patients in one study.

You will live longer! Finally, getting hitched could mean that you will live a longer life.

Downside of Marriage

Not to be all against singles by any means. There is one case which marriage doesn’t help: OBESITY. People who tend to be married suffer from higher rates of obesity than singles do. Now we all know obesity is connected to so many health concerns so this can create the opposite affect. It is always important to make healthy choices once you are married.

 

Final Thoughts

  • Being in a safe, stable marriage can help you live longer, reduce risk of heart disease and reduce stress levels.
  • For those with cancer, being in a healthy loving relationship can increase the odds of you living longer.
  • Con of relationships increases your chances of being obese. So make sure to adopt an active, healthy lifestyle and motivate each other!:)

What are some positive benefits within your relationship? Make sure to comment below and also check out How to Identify & Release a Toxic Relationship.

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The Narcissist doesn’t want your love, they don’t know what love is. They want your admiration and your obedience as a player in their fake make-believe world.

This is a topic that hits close to home. As I researched about human behavior, I realized that the Narcissist was someone I used to date. I noticed some of his characteristics that were alarming, yet was not strong enough to leave, I decided to write this blog post to hopefully help out others that may be in the situation I once was in.

To begin,narcissists lack the basics levels of empathy for others. This includes a constant need for validation, a willingness to control people, and a ruthlessness in getting their needs met. That being said, the narcissist thrives on other’s fear.. Narcissists haven’t learned that the only true power is love-of self, others and the universe. And if you have ever fallen in love with someone like this, you know how painful it can be. 

Now painful relationships can be blessings in disguise. They unwrap our deepest wounds for us to heal. They can free us by helping us reclaim our own power.

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So, how do you know for sure if you’re dealing with a narcissist? Here are 9 signs to look for:

  1. A narcissist will often call you “crazy” (and slowly start to convince you that you are!)  They are known to use “gaslighting,” which is a form of psychological abuse used to create anxiety and confusion. Which creates those to lower their own trust in themselves and their ability to discern what is real and what is healthy.
  2. He or she use your personal insecurities or struggles to make you feel not good enough. Personal insecurities that you may not have otherwise been aware of seem to be a constant source of tension and are often pointed out critically and insensitively.

and she was made to appear crazy by the man who drove her there

-r.h. Sin

3. You’re constantly being blamed. It is NEVER their fault! Narcissists don’t accept that they create their own reality. Instead, they are constantly hurt by your behavior and project the blame onto you. Their responses are triggered by unhealed wounds, so they’re trying to relieve pain, subconsciously, through harmful emotional abuse. DO NOT FEEL SORRY FOR THEM.

4. Are they hot and heavy in the beginning… The beginning of the relationship is like all of the scorching scenes in Sex and the City! They are all about you and the relationship seems like a fairy tale. We love being pursued and showered with attention by someone charismatic and charming. Whisk us away Prince!

5. Hot and cold. When they have your trust, they will flip on you, pull back, making you feel crazy. Vulnerability? Ha! That would shatter their poor ego.

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Narcissists will destroy your life and erode your self-esteem and do it with such stealth as to make you feel as YOU are the one that is letting them down.

6. Trophy Complex! Does your love interest seem to always come at the right time? Fixing problems like a hero or heroine? Do they have a sense of false image convincing everyone they are truly better than who they really are?

7. You start feeling obsessive, needy or codependent after spending time with this person. Seriously this one is a huge red flag and I know from experience. An em-path’s light is bright; highly sensitive individuals have a high love quotient. We are always there to love and support. Though if you are feeling obsessive, comparing, needy, codependent and definitely drained, JUMP SHIP!

8. Lashing out and behaving like the narcissist. You’re not being heard so we tend to lash out or become reactive in ways similar to the narcissist themselves. Scary!

9. They are genuinely damaged yet not open to healing. They are phenomenal at appearing they are damaged or need our help. It is not your job to save or fix someone! DO NOT FIX THEM!

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Why are we Attracted to Narcissists?

Well, for one, society does a wonderful job of glamorizing these personality types. The Narcissist is the “charmer.” Feeding off of drama and romanticizing over the pain of love.

Connection through pain is the new sexy. 

If you are attracted closely to Narcissistic patterns, You may have childhood trauma you need to heal.

As we grow, we attract partners who reflect our wounds until we heal them. Deep stuff I know, this we can go over in depth in another blog. We create relationships that mirror our past hurts so vividly that we can no longer ignore them.

These relationships show up over and over. They can be romantic or not. This is true when the relationship feels and has similarities to someone you have dated or been in contact with before yet it is a new relationship. 

Time to get down and dirty on healing those deep seeded pains. 

These are growing opportunities, which can allow us to heal so that we have the ability to move into relationships rooted in love and service.

If we are still trying to prove our worth, we attract narcissists.

How do we get out of this mess?

The way out of a narcissistic relationships is not easy, especially when there are deep feelings from your end. They are also manipulative. Yet, it begins with awareness, which if you are reading this I hope that is enough. Follow the awareness by taking responsibility for our actions and feelings learning how to love ourselves enough to LEAVE. What happens when we blame the narcissist for our pain is that we become even more needy and codependent. They will also make us feel bad about ourselves so that we feel we can never do better.

Blame keeps us trapped!

The narcissist is not responsible for our wounds. They may trigger our wounds. What we decide to do with this information is up to us. It is time to gain self love and rise above!

XoXo,
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I refuse to be subject to your mind games and lies. I will not play a part in your constant drama. You will not manipulate me, nor will you control me.

How do you spot a manipulator?

It started so easily and effortlessly. He was witty, thoughtful, charming, passionate and a professional liar. Yup! Liar! Yet, for some reason I could not walk away. I tried. It took me way to long to realize what the relationship was doing to me. Though when it ended, I felt so pure, free, and myself again.

So, how did this happen and why did I feel so poorly about myself? Here are some easy red flags to know you are dating a master manipulator and you need to get out before you loose yourself and it is too late!

  • This is probably the most prominent one I noticed once we separated. Not only did I never make plans with friends, which mind you I lost many through the years of being with him, my emotions were affected so greatly by how he showed me affection. I was ecstatic when he was loving and appreciative towards me. Yet, when he ignored me, treated me poorly and blamed me for making him feel bad I felt the worst I have ever felt in my life. I was nervous, anxious, and downright depressed!

  • My friends were annoyed. Clearly this one is linked to the previous. I cannot blame anyone for being so annoyed. I had friends and family telling me…begging me to leave him. Looking at the situation from where I am now, who wouldn’t be pissed off at a friend constantly complaining about the same problems over and over with their disrespectful significant other? No one understood why I was still “wasting my time” with him and honestly I didn’t know why either.

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All I kept saying was, “I love him!”

  • He was more emotional than I was. I swear he had a menstrual cycle and PMS worse than a teenage girl going through puberty! Granted there were times he showered me with love. That is when he was in a good mood or wanted something. If he was in a horrible mood, no matter what the reason, I suffered. Usually, he made it my fault somehow.

  • Efforts were one sided. Based off of the last  number, when he was upset I tried so hard to make him happy. I was always putting forth effort to better our relationship. Who wants to be the only one emitting love? Texts? Plans? He would give only when he felt like it or noticed I was starting to fall out of interest in him.

  • Unwilling to compromise. Never was it halfway. It was always his way or the highway. I heard his thoughts, wants and needs. Was any of that reciprocated? Answer was… at times, when it was beneficial to him!

  • Living in fear created self esteem. The emotional abuse I endured was tremendous. We had our highs and lows. His feelings for me changed randomly. One day he would tell me he loved me the next he would be talking to others. I feared everyday that he would break up with me. Looking back, I wish I would have done the honors.

  • Great sense of speech. As I mentioned before, if I was starting to come to my senses, he knew exactly what to say and when. Every word out of his mouth was meticulous, yet usually a lie. He created some of my weaknesses, knew how to target them and use everything against me.

  • He didn’t “change” until I left. The second I finally called it quits in my heart, he changed his ways (or so he claims). The first time we separated and he finally realized I was done, he flooded me with affection, like I stated he always came back when I was falling away. Unfortunately, he was already with someone else at this time.

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The damage has been done and there’s no going back!

Despite the feelings, emotions and torment I went through for years, this was a blessing in disguise. Why you ask? Well, once I fully separated and cleansed myself of all this I met someone so incredible! Someone who supports me, loves me unconditionally(which sadly is really hard for me to accept from how I was treated), and tells me how beautiful I am daily. Isn’t this what all of us are looking for? So, when people told me there are many fish in the sea or that there were great guys who will love and treat me with the respect I deserve, they were correct! 

I FOUND HIM! WE FOUND EACH OTHER:)

The first day we met we instantly fell in love! A couple months later, as I was driving to grab us some food, I realized mid drive that I was driving all by myself. Now this sounds funny to say. It sounds funny to read! If anyone knew me and my past relationship they would know that I didn’t feel comfortable leaving to get gas or even to go to work! I was fearful that he would be talking to someone else like I caught him numerous times before. That fear is something from the past!

I have someone who loves, respects and adores me! Who allows me to do those things I love and they help me which betters us!!! But that is for another post:)

I know this is a difficult topic and many women struggle with this. The amount of times I had thought about leaving to better myself, I couldn’t. Don’t beat yourself up. Do not ever lower your self love. Yet, as many told me before “You will not change unless you are ready.” Be kind to yourself and make sure you have positive support. Even if it is with a professional.

Hypnotherapy is a great way to gain more self love and confidence to aid in these situations! Head here for more information! Click Here!

Make sure to comment below. Hearing other’s situations or hearing our own stories as we write it can help us release or clarify what we are dealing with.

 

XoXo,
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Tell me about your energy.

Statistically speaking, Americans feel 44% more stressed than they did 5 years ago. Then, 1 in 5 Americans experience “extreme stress” and 3 out of 4doctor visits are stress related ailments!

This brings us to energy zapper numero uno!

Mistake #1: Stressing out.

Everyone feels it, experiences it, yet very few of us take our stress seriously and understand the true threat it has on our overall health. When we go day in and day out with stress, it sends our cortisol through a roller coaster. This in turn weakens our immune system and wreaks havoc upon our energy.

Have no fear! We can learn to relax!

Learning how to relax can be a powerful tool. We can even train our bodies to handle stress with more ease. Meditation is one of the many tactics I utilize to reduce stress. Check out my article on 4 ways of Meditation Here!

Mistake #2: No Movement. 

Our bodies are not made for inactivity. Back as far as we can research, man was hunting, running, gathering, etc. Our cells contain spunky little engines called Mitochandria. These tiny powerhouses are responsible for turning our food into fuel.

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Now this is truly important:

The quality and quantity of these engines, determine the quality and quantity of energy we possess.

So, how do we build these little guys up? Through healthy lifestyle practices, duh! Exercise is right at the top of the list. What is one small change you can make that will add movement to your day?

Some examples you can find are within this article I wrote about Yoga to energize your mornings!

Mistake #3: Ignoring your gut.

In my most recent article, 5 ways to maintain gut health, I discuss how important the gut is to our overall well being. This is also directly related to our energy.

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There are 5 simple ways you can

start to heal your gut.

#1 Eat your fruits and veggies! Think of your gut as a garden. It needs proper care to thrive. The fertilizer that feeds your garden is fiber. So, eating more of a plant- based diet helps the good guys do their job and you feel fantastic in return!:)

#2 Reduce inflammation. This is a bit more difficult for our Standard American Diet (SAD). Honestly, there are way to many processed foods and especially refined sugars. This creates an imbalance in your gut which leads to inflammation. Replacing those foods with plant foods keeps harmful organisms at bay.

#3 Drink WATER. I couldn’t begin to tell you how important water is. This means ZERO soda, NO energy drinks. Rock that H2O!

#4 Chew your food! Beyond popular belief, your stomach is not equip with teeth. *Mind Blown* Use your teeth to help your stomach out. Digestion actually starts with the enzymes secreted within your mouth.

#5 Move your body. We already mentioned this one. Exercise actually increases the diversity of probiotics and also helps you poop! Woo Hoo:)

Now it is your turn. What is one thing you will do this week to begin healing your gut? 

Mistake #4: Chasing Perfection. 

This has to be my personal struggle. There is nothing fun or pleasurable about perfection. It is controlling, boring, and rigid. In fact, it is not even doable because perfection is a myth. What is one thing you’ve been beating yourself up for not doing “perfectly”?

Write it down and then cross that shit out! You’ve got more important things to do than worrying about being perfect.

It’s not about getting more energy. It’s about uncovering the innate energy and well-being that’s already inside you.

Again, make sure to leave a comment on how your energy has been feeling as of late and the things you will be doing to help increase it.

 

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Dear Stomach, You’re bored, not hungry So Shut Up!

We have all been here! The pint of ice cream, the chocolate chip cookies, the liters of soda taunting you from the kitchen counter. Yet, is it the actual food that is pestering you? NO! it is the CRAVINGS!

We all have them, yet do we really understand why? Better yet, do we know how to curb them? I have struggled and failed miserably being controlled by my cravings! What about you?

You probably are already aware that cravings are not a result of being hungry. But you may not be aware of how these damn things work. Cravings have a biological and a psychological influence.

The most common foods we crave are sugar, carbs, chocolate, salt and for some, cheese. First, let’s walk through the main causes of these cravings, and this will give us a better understanding of why this happens!:)

5 Causes of Food Cravings

Leptin Resistance

What the hell is Leptin? Well, Leptin is a hormone in our bodies that produce in our fat tissues. Its primary job is to stimulate your appetite and also tell us when you’re full. Clearly, mine is not working! This works harmoniously when our brains and stomachs are on the same page. But, it doesn’t work that way when constant surges of leptin trick your brain into feeling hungry even when you are not. Why does this happen? Well, one culprit is having too much body fat-more fat means more leptin produced. Simple enough.

Another cause is eating a diet high in sugary foods and processed crap. The sugar triggers fat cells which releases leptin. Whatever it may be, constant surges of leptin can lead to leptin resistance.

Eating a healthy, balanced diet is the best way to keep a normal balance of leptin in your body.

Serotonin Low

Most have heard of this incredible neurotransmitter. Yet, did you know that it is mainly produced within, none other than, the gastrointestinal (GI) tract? It is directly tied to our mood, appetite, and digestion. *Mind Blown*

This is a pretty important one. I have witnessed this one in action quite often especially in children who have eaten high carbohydrate and sugar products. When we consume these foods our mood increases for a short while. Then we come crashing down causing our brain to think

“I need more!”

Low serotonin can also be caused by poor gut health, alcohol consumption, depression(which can go hand in hand with many of these others), anxiety and OCD. You know what I am talking about! How often do you feel crumby and you want that comfort food? Or you convince yourself that it is okay to eat because you are feeling down and out?

Moving right along!

Endorphins

This is another big word, what does this have to do with cravings? First off, endorphins are basically opiates that help us relax. Eating sugary foods and especially salt increases the production of this hormone. When we eat these foods we experience a relaxing feeling. Obviously, we crave more! And with this, it can create addictions.

There have been recent studies that sugar can actually have more intense feelings of reward than cocaine. Clearly, this is not good. No wonder we have such issues with Obesity and mental illnesses. They are all closely related to food addiction. There have been many studies also indicating the addictive qualities of foods found in highly processed foods can cause addictive eating because of the rapid rate absorption.

The more you can avoid packaged and processed foods, the more control you’ll have over your food choices.

Sluggish Gut

Previously mentioned, serotonin levels are directly linked to cravings, and your gut is the epicenter of serotonin production. Unfortunately, in order to maintain those feel-good levels of serotonin, your gut needs to be in impeccable shape! This allows you to absorb nutrients from your food and pump out serotonin through your GI tract. Only this act is based on having a gut that is healthy with a proper balance of good bacteria.

Emotions

This one is the big kahuna! All emotions can prompt you to peruse the pantry! Who doesn’t want to bundle up on the couch and mow down some chips, cookies, and ice cream when you break up? Most cravings often disappear within an hour, choosing a healthier option or even better choosing an activity you enjoy may give you just what you needed!

Now that you understand a bit more about where these cravings begin, let’s discuss some ways to stop them!

5 Tips for Tackling Food Cravings

  1. Drink water. I am so sick of hearing people say “I don’t like water” Well, that is just stupid.. We are made up of 80% water. For our organs to function, you must be drinking roughly half your body weight in ounces DAILY. Do the math! Literally, thirst and dehydration make you feel hungry. Once you consume more water this will help control your hunger.
  2. Avoid sugary foods and processed carbs. Clearly, this is one I have been stressing greatly throughout this article. Avoid these as much as possible. I am not saying you cannot enjoy your sweet indulgences, just whip them up with lower amounts of sugar, higher fiber, and higher protein ingredients! Examples of these are dark chocolate (yay), almond flour, cassava flour, and bean flour. These will not trigger cravings and feed an appetite that just won’t quit.
  3. Exercise and plenty of rest. Within our society we are so high strung and exhausted. Truly not a great combination. Sometimes as we come home from our stressful days of work we head straight to the kitchen to seek out comfort and relax. Rather than relying on frenchfries and Oreos to help us relax, go for a short walk or go to bed earlier! These habits produce endorphins that are just like Hershey Kisses. If you do choose to exercise it boosts your serotonin levels. Any time I choose yoga, hiking or weightlifting I never want to ruin it with crap foods.
  4. Meditation and daily sunshine. Taking a few minutes, even at lunch, to get some fresh air and quiet your mind also boosts your serotonin levels. I know personally when I walk outside and the sun is shining a feeling of peace rushes over me. Meditation doesn’t have to be a complete silence either. I use journaling as my meditation as well as listening to music and just staying still!
  5. Avoid trigger foods for 21 days. It has been stated that 21 days is how long it takes for a habit to form. Clearly, we have enforced bad habits and now need to tough through 21 days without our trigger foods. You will be fine! Find healthier options to grab when you’re craving. Great choices are low-glycemic smoothies and desserts, fresh berries, guacamole or hummus with veggies, rice cakes or raw cashews.

Does this mean you cannot have your favorite treats anymore?

No Way! Yet, if you feel like your food cravings are running your life, take back control by understanding them more.

Do you have any tips for overcoming your cravings? Comment below because others may be in the same predicament that you are and could use your help! Oh! And another thing: brush and floss your teeth. It helps train your brain that you are done eating when your mouth feels all squeaky clean!

XoXo,

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5 WAYS TO MAINTAIN GUT HEALTH

By Jenna Clark

Let food be thy medicine and medicine be thy food

-Hippocrates

The gut is one of the most important systems within our bodies. Unfortunately, It also is the most temperamental! Our gut is like our second brain. This guy controls and regulates so many of our body’s functions. Our moods, metabolism, illnesses and the obvious one, digestion. The health of our digestive tract is imperative for our overall well-being.

So, what even happens in the digestive tract? Well first of all, there is good bacteria in this system. This can affect your body’s vitamin & mineral absorption, hormone regulation, vitamin production, immune response and the ability to eliminate toxins.

Get this! Good Bacteria also regulates your overall mental health! This is so important! Our mental and emotional health become clogged when the gut is.

How do we make sure our gut stays healthy?

All disease begins in the gut

-Hippocrates

Healthy Gut

Here are 5 different ways to maintain optimal digestive health:

  1. Ditch the SugarsProcessed food is dangerous to our health. Sugars are difficult to recognize in our foods. Sugars hide in additives, preservatives, ingredients you can’t even pronounce, and chemicals we aren’t even meant to consume in the first place!

Refined sugar and processed foods destroy our gut, causing extreme imbalances and killing our good bacteria that resides there. Instead of choosing the boxed and bagged items at the store, choose Whole Foods that are raw and preferably organic.

2. Load up on MagnesiumWhat is Magnesium? This nutrient is greatly needed within our bodies. It regulates over 300 processes. Such as, boosting mood, improves quality of sleep, calms nerves and reduces anxiety, relieves muscle soreness, regulates calcium, potassium and sodium levels, prevents headaches, and simply helps with digestion.

Where can I get Magnesium, you ask? Simple! Flaxseed, leafy greens, or high grade supplements. Make sure to ask someone to help you find the correct type of magnesium for you.

3. Good Bacteria support This is not foreign. We have heard of them before – Probiotics! Probiotics live in our digestive tracts. These are needed to keep gut health and our well-being in tip top shape! A great way to start the day is taking a 50 billion strand probiotic on an empty stomach.

4. Drink WaterAs humans, we are 70%+ made up of water. Despite what people may think it is essential for us to survive. Though, it is also imperative for our gut health. Drink 1/2 your body weight in ounces.

5. Relax and Reduce StressAs mentioned before, the brain and the gut are directly related, especially when it comes to stress. When the body is in a stressful state the brain is triggered to go into fight of flight mode. This can stop our digestive tract, decreasing metabolism and causing many problems.

How can we De-Stress?

Great ways to reduce stress in our lives are meditation, yoga, coloring, reading, therapy, exercise, and the great outdoors!

Using these techniques will increase our gut health and maintain it. You will see improvements within your mood, sleep patterns, motivation, ability to fight off illness, circulation, and many more health benefits.

The only thing you need to do is start loving your gut! Make it healthy – the rest of your body will tank you for it!

xoxo,

 
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4 TIPS TO USE WHEN YOU’RE GROWING SPIRITUALLY, YET YOUR PARTNER MAY NOT BE

By Jenna Clark

To all you spiritual gangsters out there, I hear ya!

Growing spiritually, or in other terms awakening your spirit is miraculous.

This is something that I have been deeply working on for the past couple of years. Spirituality is something that I steered away from because of growing up as a Catholic. Not that anything is wrong with this it just turned me off to any church and religion.

I was driven to other avenues and started Yoga Teacher Training. It was life changing! I will have to go more in depth at a later time. I have noticed as I raise my vibration people around me fall out of the picture. Which is very heartbreaking and I am someone who wants to fix things. I am realizing that, not that anyone is better than another, it is a good thing for some to fall away. This allows room for people who are also in the same mindset. Even though some that I felt would be around forever leave other’s start to come into your life who are healthier and a lot more powerful in mind!

Waking up and opening your eyes to Spirituality is fun and exciting.

You get to know who you are on a deeper level as well as the world around you. This is EPIC!

Since, I was a young girl I always felt like there was so much more in life. I never felt like I fit in and always thought deeper than my schoolmates and loved ones around me. I am starting to find others like me, including one of my teachers, Gabby Bernstein!

It is one of the toughest situations starting to grow and become closer to who you are. Your surroundings begin to change, your awareness and those around you start to shift and possibly leave.

For my personal journey, I am beginning to see that I am at this point. Losing those that I thought were my friends and it is also testing my current relationships.

So, how can you better yourself and grow yet also maintain a relationship?

Honestly, I can’t say.

Sorry, I am in the same spot as you may be. BUT! I have some tips that may help you out.

To begin,

Remember that you loved each other for non-spiritual reasons in the first place.

I am pretty sure when you first saw your mate, you were drawn to them for different reasons like similar hobbies, events, or love.

Eventually, you fell so deeply for this person and now we are here!

PS: you may be going through a spiritual awakening or growing, yet that does NOT change anything about your relationship. It was already built before this new you!

On to the next,

Do NOT ever ever ever ever ever think lesser of them.

Once I started learning about healthier eating habits and life choices I shoved it down everyone’s face. I really lost a lot of “friends”. Whoops.

It is great knowledge. It is exciting and enjoyable. Some people are just not ready for its awesomeness. Which is FINE!

I am guilty. Looking down on those around me because their vibration wasn’t raised or raising like mine. I didn’t mean it in a mean way though. In my heart, I just wanted them to have a bite out of the spiritual cookie and enjoy life too.

This is a great time to reflect back on the religious figures, in whatever religion you choose not bias here, and remember how their stories were written.

They preformed incredible miracles and were so vibrationally powerful. Yet, they still lived amongst the poor and healed those who may not have been deserving in other’s minds. Remember to keep yourself humble and grounded.

Invite them to do the new things you enjoy.

Have you ever just asked if they wanted to participate? I may have been judgemental towards my ex- boyfriend when I started to practice yoga. “He totally should be doing this, I feel so much better after and gain more flexibility.” Did I ever ask him?

Maybe once or twice. Looking back now I know that my words were wrapped in fear and judgement. I was judging myself and reflecting it upon him. I felt I couldn’t ask him to join me in my weird voodoo witchcraft because he wouldn’t love me anymore.

Hault! Put on the breaks!

This attitude, this mindset, was all a reflection on my own feelings. There are times now his friends tell him about an issue they are having and he refers them to me. He loves me for me! Even if he calls my actions voodoo or that I am his little witch. I am now comfortable in who I am and what I am doing that I embrace it!

Reminder: we are individuals. Haven’t we been told time and time again to be our own person. Not to conform? Well that is pretty much what you are asking. So Stop it!

Don’t push the issue.

I am definitely not saying to not talk. This is you. You must be open, calm, loving, and inviting. It can hurt when they reject you. Do Not Take Things Personally.

(Read the Four Agreements)

Spirituality is not like a religion that pins you with a responsibility to convert every person you know and meet.

Spirituality is a very personal journey, and if the one you love doesn’t want to join in this adventure, don’t push the issue.

I was feeling upset about this topic, yet with just a small amount of willingness to let go I have been able to separate from feeling offended and judged by my ex-boyfriend. I practice this with my fiance now and I have seen changes in him because I am practicing patience and kindness towards him and myself.

What a beautiful thing!

Until next time Lovelies!

XoXo,

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